Wednesday, August 13, 2008
Healthy attachment or seperation axiety?
So Izaiah has become REALLY attached to his brown teddy-bear in the last week or so. Well he's not really that attached to it yet, but he does want to take it with us wherever we go, and he asks for it whenever he gets upset and wipes his eyes with the bear's ears. But if we go somewhere and he's having fun he will let me hold it for him while he plays. Is this because of new baby brother? Is he forming a healthy attachment or is he gonna loose it somewhere and freak out and shreik because he's lost his lovey friend. Hello psycology majors! Anybody have a clue? He wants it to sleep with every night, but if he's not too tired another bear will do, but if he is really freaky tired and grumpy he cries and makes me go find it. Then when he gets it he wipes his eyes on teh ears and tells me he feels better. What is this about? Anybody anybody? This is really odd behavior for my little independant man.
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I think it might be related to the new baby brother. Jake did something similar when Madi came home although it didn't last very long...I'm not psychology major though so I could be up in the night!
(Heh, after I wrote that I realized that I'm writing this after midnight Utah time...so I am up in the night in a literal sense....)
OOPS! That last post was really Liza, I didn't notice my husband left himself signed in....
Hi,
He wasn't doing this when the baby was first born. However, as the baby gets older and begins to demand and respond to more of your time, Izaiah sees him as more of a person than as an object. He may also see him as a threat to his time and attention from you. The fact that Mommy has gone back to work and his "Mommy" time is more limited doesn't add to his feelings of security. His bear is something he can hold on to and control. It gives him a small measure of the security and control that he feels he has lost. He will eventually grow out of his need for the bear as he matures and adjusts to the new situation. He is also becoming more adept at expressing himself and communicating with you. All of this comes from experience and courses in Early Childhood Development. In other words, don't worry. He'll grow out of it.
Love you all,
Mom
Yes, its the baby brother. But its good that he's found something to latch onto. Kids often backslide in some way or another when a new sibling arrives. Thats probably why he's so hard to potty train just now or why he's been more clingy to you.
But you probably already know all this and just want a little reassurance. Yes, it does get better!
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